I remember the moment these words were flowing from my pen in 2016.   This was the year that the Black Lives Matter protests were spreading like wildfire nationwide.  Yet four years later, nothing has changed.  Not even in the midst of a global pandemic can the horrific injustice of racism cease.  I believe that we are all asking the same question… when is this going to change!?!

What will it take for an unarmed person of color to make it home to their family alive?  Or not get pulled over for driving a nice car in a nice neighborhood? Or followed in a store? Or paid less than their counterparts? Or stand outside during a pandemic while others are able to congregate in large numbers without a mask?  I can go on and on and on and on.  This has to stop!!!

Unfortunately, we know all to well the outcry will die down until the next time an injustice is caught on camera.  

2016 Revisited….

I don’t know what its like to be a black man but I know what its like to be married to one. I don’t know what its like to be a black teenager or to be the only dark kid in the class but I know what its like to raise three. 

I know as a wife and as a mother the underlying pain and frustration that goes along with the “look”.  I know what its like to hail a cab and not get picked up unless I stand on the street and my husband stands on the sidewalk.  I know what its like to not be able to rent an apartment with my husband, to be told sorry its been taken already.  Most importantly, I know what its like to be a passenger while pulled over by police at 1am around the corner from my own home for no reason at all.  Flashlights in the car, on my husband, on my face and even my daughter’s face. Then to be asked “what are you doing around here”.  When the officer saw his address on the license he tells my husband “just go ahead”. 

As we know this situation could have gone south quick if he was alone.   I am not against the police, we need them, and we need to pray for them and their families. What happened in Dallas is unacceptable! However, if you think police-brutality is justified because you assume it only happens to bad people that live a certain “lifestyle” or just to criminals you are WRONG! You see, I may not be black but the most important people in my life are!!

Whoever sows injustice will reap calamity, and the rod of his fury will fail.



  1. This is dejavu, over & over again. I wonder what MLK would say today. Unfortunately this will never go away because this behavior has been accepted by those who feel superior to us dark people. It saddens me every time there’s an incident like this because I know that it won’t be the last one.

  2. Wow! I am so glad that you and your family as safe after that encounter with the police. It is unbelievable that this continues to happen in 2020. Much prayer is needed.

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